So far this week, the Dr. Phil Show has showcased two horror stories about adoptive parents who harmed the children they pledged to raise. I am not a regular Dr. Phil watcher but this week’s story lines captured my attention since each episode showcases an absolute failure of the adoption system, and the need for better screening, enforcement and mandated checks on families AFTER the adoption is final.
The suffering shared on yesterday’s show made me so angry that I ended up yelling at the screen. Well gosh golly, I found me a racist sexual predator and ignorant wanna-be mother! Gee whiz, let’s give that couple a kid. UGH!
There are many abusive blood parents in the the world too, but there’s something about the abuse and neglect of children at the hands of adoptive parents that makes me insane! When a couple is gifted and assigned to act as legal guardians of a child, they better be ready to walk-the-walk, talk-the-talk, and put in the hard work required to parent that child until they are 18-years old. Failure to do so is an unforgivable sin against the birth parents who could not or would not raise the child.
No matter the source, child abuse results in scars. However, the scars suffered by children adopted into ‘safe’ homes and abused by the very people meant to protect them is a scar on society and the entire adoption system.
Sharing the links and summaries from the Dr. Phil Show below. The adoption system is just not working folks. If you are one of the happy, bappy, believers that the system is a wonderful fix for needy kids, watch these episodes
Turning a Blind Eye?
Thirty-five-year-old Tonya says from ages 5 to 15, her adoptive father, Bruce, molested her — and that despite her cries for help, her mother, Kathy, did nothing to stop it. Kathy admits that she believed her daughter’s claims but was too afraid to take action. Why did she allow Bruce to live in the same house as her daughter — even after he allegedly admitted to the abuse? Tonya says she was not only betrayed by her mother but also her half-sister, Sarah, Bruce’s biological daughter. Tonya claims that Sarah continued to support her father after he pleaded guilty to sexual acts on or in the presence of a child under 16 in a lewd, lascivious or indecent manner. Tonya faces Kathy and Sarah on Dr. Phil’s stage. Can she find forgiveness and finally heal the wounds of her painful past? Plus, hear from Bruce, who served one year in prison and 10 years of probation and is now a registered sex offender. Does he have any remorse? This show contains strong sexual content. Viewer discretion advised.
Tuesday – August 20, 2013
Missing or Murdered: Where is 15-Year-Old Erica?
In a daytime exclusive, Dr. Phil sits down with the adoptive parents of 15-year-old Erica Parsons, who was last seen nearly two years ago but was only recently reported missing — by her brother. Casey and Sandy claim their daughter is alive and well and has been living with “Nan,” a woman who they believe is Erica’s biological grandmother. So, where is Nan? And, why do these parents say they’re now being accused of murder? What really happened to Erica?
Blessing for placements that protect,Vicki-lynn
One thought on “It’s Nightmare Adoptive Parent Week on Dr. Phil”
No it does not work, I agree. At best, the adoptive parents are still foster parents it seems, housing a child until the child finds their birth family. Of course, I sound cynical because that was my experience and this was after a two year wait, involving home study and classes before an adoptee came to live with us.
I later worked for a year in a residential foster care facility and actually it was not a perfect solution but i did find that the residents seemed to bond, perhaps because they had much in common…a need to relate to others in need of care.
Disgusts me to no end that kids are being abused…period, but the most vulnerable deserve better.
For me, the irony in my experience is that my adoptee was removed from birth care due to mistreatment and yet when we helped her find them she went there any way and hooked up with a man her birth father raised, so he had the life she would have had if she had not been removed. Go figure!
Not a perfect system…it is complicated, on that we all can agree.