Use Search Passion to Fight for Adoption Rights & Equal Access- Here’s How

During my decade long search for common ground, my heart pulsed with anger and outrage over the indelicate, unfair and closeted treatment of hundreds of thousands of adult adoptees.  “In the best interest of the child,” was the mantra of adoption agency representatives. My reply, “Well that child no longer exists. I am an adult, and all  I want is what you have, a familiarity of face, place, nationality and genetics.”

I often felt alone, singled out and hopeless. However, searching is not odd, uncommon or unique. Just look at the Facebook page- You Know You’re An Adoptee When, and you will be amazed, and saddened by the number of people who are desperately looking for biological siblings, parents, and children. We are nation of missing people. In fact, stats posted at indicate that:

  • 2-4% of all adoptees searched in 1990. (American Adoption Congress, 1996)
  • 500,000 adult adoptees were seeking or had found birth families in the late 80’s. (Groza and Rosenberg, 1998)

During my search, one of the things that helped me to persevere was the channeling of my passion to find, into a passion to change the world. Well, not the world, but at least NY state law.



If you are suffering the personal plaque of not knowing, it is time to reach beyond your search. As more of us express outrage over antiquated laws, and the lack of access to original birth certificates we grow more influential. The power of social media, and easy access to government officials via email, Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn, has allowed adoption rights groups to make some headway to change adoption law.

A recent post on the Lost Daughter blog, explains how to channel your passion to know who you are, into action for change.  ‘How to Write to Your Legislator about Adoptee Rights’ explains how to find a Representative in your state, how to contact them, and what to include in yourcorrespondence. There is also a link to Bastard Nation‘s Influencing Legislation page, which includes sample letters.

Blessings for change, and fair treatment for all,

3 thoughts on “Use Search Passion to Fight for Adoption Rights & Equal Access- Here’s How

  1. thank you for a reply I`ve been searching for My 2 daughters 4 a couple of weeks and nothing. I believe that names were changed after the adoption thanks again you gave me hope.

    On Fri, Feb 15, 2013 at 8:13 AM, adoptionfind

    • Debbie, every adoptee I have met, had their named changed after adoption. Some agencies also change the birthdates.
      However, your best bet for searching is joining every state and national adoption registry. You should also use as many adoption forums as possible and search for their birthdates and place of birth. My only warning is that searching before they are adults can be damaging for all. There are also quite a few sites for birthmoms out there. The First Mother forum is a great place to start. Blessings for a reunion that is good for all!

  2. Everyone connected to adoption should do more to make equal access to Original Birth Certificates a reality. Contacting your representatives is as simple as email in todays world. Please share this and encourage others to do the same until this injustice is corrected. 
    42 States in the US deny this right! WHO better should have the right to this information than those it concerns?
    “The truth will set you free”(Jesus). It is time to free the adopted!

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