Adoptees, whether you know your birth surname or not, get thee to the Internet! With an upsurge in adoption reunion registries, more and more birth parents are posting. This means, that the person you seek, may already be looking for you!
After you search each of the registries, post your information on as many sites as possible. The more places you post, the more likely you are to be found. In every post, include your date of birth, gender, city of birth and for surname use “UNKNOWN.”
An example posting would be:
Baby Boy born 3/13/1968, 03/13/68, March 13, 1968 at New York Hospital in Manhattan, NY searching for birth family. Contact Vicki at firstname.lastname@example.org
Notice, that I list the date of birth in three formats (X/XX/XXXX, XX/XX/XX and Month, Day, Year) so that it will appear in all search formats.
Use a contact email that is not temporary and keep a list of the places (and passwords) for your posts so you can update contact information as needed. The Internet is a powerful tool. I have used forums, reunion registries and ZabaSearch.com to facilitate several easy reunions.
In addition to private registries, many states have state run registries. Often called ‘Mutual Consent Registries’ these registries often charge a fee. Most state registries will inform you if the information you enter (online or through a printed form) matches the information of any birth family member that is registered.
Some states also have programs similar to reunion registries called ‘Confidential intermediary (CI) programs’. An intermediary is someone who acts on behalf of adoption triad members (adoptee, birth parents, or adoptive parents). These individuals are authorized by law to help with a search and contact other members of the birthfamily. He or she can access sealed adoption records to conduct a search. These programs protect records and those who do not want to be reunited. Therefore, consent must be obtained from both parties in order to release information and facilitate a reunion.
Available State reunion registries and intermediary programs available as of this writing include:
* Arkansas: (PDF form) https://dhs.arkansas.gov/dcfs/heartgallery/CFS_434_Jan_15_03.pdf
* California: http://www.dss.cahwnet.gov/cfsweb/PG1314.htm
* Georgia: http://www.ga-adoptionreunion.com/
* Indiana: http://www.in.gov/isdh/20371.htm
* Michigan: http://www.michigansearching.com/MCAD.htm
* New Jersey: http://www.state.nj.us/njfosteradopt/adoption/registry/
* Rhode Island: http://www.courts.ri.gov/family/adoptreg.htm
* South Carolina: http://www.southcarolinaadoptions.com/RegistryForm1.html
* South Dakota: http://dss.sd.gov/adoption/adoptionregistry/
* West Virginia: http://adoption.childhswv.org/AdoptLaw/al_confidentb.htm
* Wisconsin: http://www.icareregistry.com/
If your state is not listed, I was unable to find a state run registry. However, many other reunion registries exist.
The largest national reunion registries include:
Warning- do not offer any additional personal information online. You have no choice but to include your birth date. However, you should be careful not to use an email address that is an identifier. For example an email with your first and last name. You should only include your first name and might even consider creating a g-mail or yahoo account just for search correspondence. Criminals would love to get a hold of your birthdate, place of birth and full name. Always be sure to keep your search posts to only basic information.
Get out there today! Search and search again for reunion registries in your state and sign up for every one you can find. If you find a broken link, or know of another useful registry, please comment on this post.
Copyright 2012- adoptionfind/Vicki-lynn Brunskill